健硕有小孩8年后唱了一次卡拉OK，非常有感触地写了一篇博文(我很高兴他又回归传统博客，继续写他所在城市的交通、生活)，谈婚姻，谈小孩。记得我生完月月，半年内没上过街，就连去一趟超市，都像放了笼子的鸟儿。节选两段：

Kids

Looking back, there are some big life changer. Having a baby is definitely the biggest change about 4 years ago. That is the good bye to party life, and even to friend’s world. To some extend, that is also the end of the two-person world, and become a one person world – Yifan‘s world. Night means at home, seeing Yifan play, and send him to bed. Night, is no longer the time to kill with many different ways.

Marriage

Marriage is another smaller life changer. It means the end of life surrounded with friends (either female or male). It is a new journey. That means most of the friends of both world come to emerge into one big circle – I know many of the friend of Wendy‘s and she knows mine, and to find the perfect circle of knowing everyone is harder.

最后他提出一个问题：can people with a kid can still live like those without? Possible?

健硕比我大不了两岁，已在谈关于人到中年的话题。如果用佛家经常念叨的，这一刻的你早已不复存在。又怎么能跟单身之时相比？至少我在30多岁时如果不是月月，不会半夜到附近的公园去抓萤火虫，知晓原来一座城市的夏夜还有星星点点的萤火虫存在。

(为安全起见，还是上传萤火虫的照片好了。）